Be the change you want to see.

Just as I was posting the previous, Jeff came to find me and ask if I wanted to be a third person to play a game called Wizards. So I spent the last half hour of Gem's visit learning a new game with them.

Disappointment mitigated somewhat, as the game and social time were fun. IDK when I'll get another time to have the house to myself though, I do want to have a me-date soon, before the hormone cycle tips again and has me uninterested in sexy times.

Time to get out the calendar with the spouse and the new sweetie and find a good time this next week!

MJ seems like a sweetheart, and was surprisingly easy to talk to considering she warned me she was usually shy with new people. But we had an excellent dinner, and it wasn't uncomfortable. We split the check, and then walked up the street to the esoteric bookstore because I am "extra" as the kids say these days and needed to see if they had meditation cushions, they did, and they had a comfy, not too overstuffed one in teal and green, thank you, sold! And we chatted for a bit among the shinies (East West Bookstore has an impressive collection of jewelry and crystals for sale in a beautiful and well lit case) before walking back down to our cars, and parting with a hug and a couple of texts. I sent her a link from tumblr I thought she'd think was funny (since she was headed off to work the night shift) and invited her to follow or message me there if she wants to.

Good friend potential

Most people that know me would say I'm

Smart, passionate, good listener, good storyteller, amazing hugs, a little bit flaky sometimes but trying to get better.

Most people would also notice that I believe all genders are valid and that I believe you when you tell me how you identify. Also that people who disagree with me on this should just swipe left on me.

What I'm doing with my life

I'm not looking for my One, I have a One.

I'm looking for someone who can enrich my life AND at least one of my communities, OR who is already there, interested in Life, the Universe, and Everything, but we just haven't met yet.

I'm looking for (mostly polyamorous and queer friendly) Makers and Burners and fanfiction writers, dancers and music makers, artists, designers, people who have learned how to smile even when life is hard and stupid, who'll roll their eyes at me using #gotyourback while proving that they live that philosophy.

I wanna go hiking with poets and dancing with queen geeks, flirt with voluptuous risk takers and swim among beings who understand gender as a performance and a construct. Mad science arguments and poetry get flung around with Dad jokes and lyrics of old swing tunes or bits from Steven Universe and She-ra.

Can you keep up?

I'm happily embodied and studying shame free living, how about you? Can you converse without words? Are you happy to coexist, head on my shoulder or vice versa?

Did you minor in platonic cuddles and friendly flirtation? Can you deal with me dropping in and out of silly accents and dropping non sequiturs? (No wait, it's too long, let me sum up)

I'm looking for playfellows, for adventures and rowdy shenanigans, and to see where and if we fit. For an hour, a year, or longer.

I firmly believe that "each relationship should seek its own level" but I don't go for *casual* sex at all. I'm happy where I am, if you're special and secure and we click, fun is bound to happen! I have references! (My entire Burning Man camp from 2018 will vouch.)

New adventures?

I'm really good at

Writing, dancing joyfully, explaining things, expressing affection, being straightforward.

The first thing people notice about me

silver in my hair, my easy smile, my warm calm energy.

Six things I could never do without

Tea. Preferably black tea.

My Doc Martens. (i.e., ass kicking stompy boots)

My Spouse, my House, my Kitties, & Loving touch.

My spiritual practice,

My sense of humor, and

Self-respect.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

... how to strive for the Right Thing, (right thought, right word, right action,) and how can I be the most honorable human being possible.

...What's the next fun thing I can say yes to?

...how can I get better organized and more productive in my artistic life?

On a typical Friday night I am

Honestly, I'm usually at home unless I've had a really enticing invitation.
I'm pretty much a Hobbit.

The most private thing I'm willing to admit

I've had a rough time trusting people in a romantic way, after the way my last three secondary-level relationships ended. If you have any emotional intelligence, and we meet in person, I expect you to know what to do with that information.

you should message me if...

-- you and I are a very high match percentage and you live in the SF Bay Area. -- you love to walk, hike, play or dance. Especially dance.

-- you write, particularly fiction, and love to talk about it.

-- you're very liberal and want to talk about how to make art and change the world.

--you can talk about relationships like a grownup. I'm not looking for a hookup.

-- you have a quirky, self effacing sense of humor, and enough confidence to fling yourself into new small adventures.

-- you really love tea.

One thing I just realized re: dating people and/or searching for a satisfying sex partner.

I'm...not hetero anymore. Hetero guys ... Hm. I think i could dig a het fella if he was a little fey/Fay, witchy or genderqueer.

But I think I might see if my crush on an adorable friend of mine has any chance of going somewhere.

Wish me luck!

I was feeling insecure and low about the new person I've started seeing.
Was like, IDK when I'm going to get to see her, what if she doesn't want to anymore, the insecurity brainweasels just set up shop and were gonna settle in for the long haul

and then I thought of how I would describe the situation to y'all.

and the truth is, she's a single mom with shared custody,
she's a full time student,
she's seeing other people, not just me,
and she just had some important scary family medical stuff go down.

and I went, "duh. Of course she doesn't have time JUST RIGHT NOW."

and like, I allowed myself to relax and to, like, go live my own life. Cos she's got to live hers.

I'm allowed to WANT things, but nobody's obligated to totally rearrange their life so that I get them.

...I should maybe figure out how the hell to tell someone I want to see more of them without scaring them.

#lifegoals #isuppose

anyway.

just wanted to say thanks Blogiverse for a way out of my own head.

*mwah*

You have a budget of $100, a time limit of 6 hours and a fascinating potential romantic interest. Please describe your first date.

mmmm. I like this idea.

OK.

Santa Cruz. Good restaurant, seafood pasta. Kiva for hot tubs and quiet talking. End the evening on the beach with dessert and wine and a small bonfire. Learning to smooch them on a blanket on the beach by firelight. Holding hands walking back to the car as I return them to where we met up. Goodbye kiss that's a promise for the second date.

Yeah.
that'd work.

Ask me a question.