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for Inktober, a meme crossed my dash on FB
i wanna write short pieces for each of them
day 1 is Witch
I didn't plan to become a witch
but the pain was too much
and it had to go somewhere
you flayed me open
pushed inside and
burned my heart
I pulled myself back together
grasping at ragged frayed edges
of my dignity and personhood
and then I finally got home:
told you what I thought of you
and burned the last vestiges in the sink.
wiping all of your fingerprints off
may never be completely finished
because fuck this stupid world anyway
getting bad-touched again and again
till you can say no and mean it
and make it stick (goddamn those who push straight to hell)
goddamn me too; I try to do right/write/rite
without the language to call it what it is
and so I study the secret words.
Power. Words are Power.
Name it. Hold it still.
And someday? it will do as you will.
i wanna write short pieces for each of them
day 1 is Witch
I didn't plan to become a witch
but the pain was too much
and it had to go somewhere
you flayed me open
pushed inside and
burned my heart
I pulled myself back together
grasping at ragged frayed edges
of my dignity and personhood
and then I finally got home:
told you what I thought of you
and burned the last vestiges in the sink.
wiping all of your fingerprints off
may never be completely finished
because fuck this stupid world anyway
getting bad-touched again and again
till you can say no and mean it
and make it stick (goddamn those who push straight to hell)
goddamn me too; I try to do right/write/rite
without the language to call it what it is
and so I study the secret words.
Power. Words are Power.
Name it. Hold it still.
And someday? it will do as you will.
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wow. Busy fuckin' month, actually.
i started September with Burning Man and ended September with a flight home after a week in new york.
in between all that personal stuff (packing and unpacking, making memories and food and friends) the USA exploded again
these hearings for rage flailing alcoholic brett kavanaugh have got me and a lot of other people triggered AF.
the ONLY good thing about it is how everyone is actually talking about sexual assault, microaggressions, and shit like the gendered language and gendered biases a lot of us have never examined thoroughly before now.
https://www.msn.com/en-us/movies/news/catherine-hardwicke-broke-records-with-‘twilight’-then-hollywood-labeled-her-‘difficult’
^^^ one article i just read where gender bias and gendered language ... shit i don't even really have the words for THIS. Prevented a qualified director from other jobs she was PRETTY DAMN FUCKING QUALIFIED FOR. So that the jobs could all get given to men.
so women (& other non-men) are finally looking at and expressing their rage. over a lifetime of bullshit that's been dumped on them. and the good men are listening.
But a lot of men are being dicks about everything and trying to sweep this tidal wave of uncovered feeling, back into the sea.
*smirk* Good luck with that boys! hah
I did not have the language to talk about my own sexual assault when i was 21. I didn't even realize it WAS a sexual assault, a violation of my no, an intentional boundary breach, for almost a year afterwards.
my college had a Take Back The Night rally. this was fall of 1991.
I remember some fuckin dudebros. Our chant as we marched was "whatever we wear, where ever we go, yes means yes and no means no!"
the fuckin dudebros yell back from the shadows, "no means yes, yes means anal!"
*fuming, 27 years later*
Our basic assumptions are DIFFERENT AS FUCK. Because "Patriarchy? you're SOAKING IN IT!"
i have a lot, a LOT of feelings about all of this shit. Kavanaugh is being brought face to face with his own privilege and is being called OUT on the damage his thoughtless actions caused... but the same kind of calling out didn't prevent 45 from being inaugurated (I'm NOT going to say ELECTED because he WASN'T).
So much to do! Thank fuck for therapy. I'm going to make concrete plans to hang out more often with women and other folks who are also enraged and ready to take action.
***I'll try to come back and write in more detail about all the amazing things I got to do and see in September, part of why the braindump is needed here is to acknowledge recent fucked-upness and to revisit it when I have more of a plan.
i started September with Burning Man and ended September with a flight home after a week in new york.
in between all that personal stuff (packing and unpacking, making memories and food and friends) the USA exploded again
these hearings for rage flailing alcoholic brett kavanaugh have got me and a lot of other people triggered AF.
the ONLY good thing about it is how everyone is actually talking about sexual assault, microaggressions, and shit like the gendered language and gendered biases a lot of us have never examined thoroughly before now.
https://www.msn.com/en-us/movies/news/catherine-hardwicke-broke-records-with-‘twilight’-then-hollywood-labeled-her-‘difficult’
^^^ one article i just read where gender bias and gendered language ... shit i don't even really have the words for THIS. Prevented a qualified director from other jobs she was PRETTY DAMN FUCKING QUALIFIED FOR. So that the jobs could all get given to men.
so women (& other non-men) are finally looking at and expressing their rage. over a lifetime of bullshit that's been dumped on them. and the good men are listening.
But a lot of men are being dicks about everything and trying to sweep this tidal wave of uncovered feeling, back into the sea.
*smirk* Good luck with that boys! hah
I did not have the language to talk about my own sexual assault when i was 21. I didn't even realize it WAS a sexual assault, a violation of my no, an intentional boundary breach, for almost a year afterwards.
my college had a Take Back The Night rally. this was fall of 1991.
I remember some fuckin dudebros. Our chant as we marched was "whatever we wear, where ever we go, yes means yes and no means no!"
the fuckin dudebros yell back from the shadows, "no means yes, yes means anal!"
*fuming, 27 years later*
Our basic assumptions are DIFFERENT AS FUCK. Because "Patriarchy? you're SOAKING IN IT!"
i have a lot, a LOT of feelings about all of this shit. Kavanaugh is being brought face to face with his own privilege and is being called OUT on the damage his thoughtless actions caused... but the same kind of calling out didn't prevent 45 from being inaugurated (I'm NOT going to say ELECTED because he WASN'T).
So much to do! Thank fuck for therapy. I'm going to make concrete plans to hang out more often with women and other folks who are also enraged and ready to take action.
***I'll try to come back and write in more detail about all the amazing things I got to do and see in September, part of why the braindump is needed here is to acknowledge recent fucked-upness and to revisit it when I have more of a plan.
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Gentlemen of my reading list, particularly you of the feminist stripe:
a friend seeks assistance. She needs twenty-five more men to stand up against rape and rape culture, publicly.
You can read about it here and here.
I've particularly been struck by a recent meme on Facebook, which concludes that men should be offended when other men are apologists for rape culture or seek for exceptions to No Means No; to assume that men's natural state is rapist is a blow to all the kind, loving, and decent men I know who would never think of being so selfish as to force ANY unwanted attentions on ANYONE.
I HATE this topic. I HATE that we have to talk about this, that we have to convince people, that it ACTUALLY STILL NEEDS SAYING.
But our world is not as kind or as generous as I would have it be, and humans are not, either.
And so we have to explicitly *tell* people that sexual assault of ANY kind is not okay, and we have to do what we can to tip the balance toward respect for the agency and physical integrity of every individual, no matter their gender, sexual orientation, identification, presentation, history or reputation.
No means no.
Gentlemen of my friends list, please consider participating in YesheRabbit's project. I thank you in advance.
a friend seeks assistance. She needs twenty-five more men to stand up against rape and rape culture, publicly.
You can read about it here and here.
I've particularly been struck by a recent meme on Facebook, which concludes that men should be offended when other men are apologists for rape culture or seek for exceptions to No Means No; to assume that men's natural state is rapist is a blow to all the kind, loving, and decent men I know who would never think of being so selfish as to force ANY unwanted attentions on ANYONE.
I HATE this topic. I HATE that we have to talk about this, that we have to convince people, that it ACTUALLY STILL NEEDS SAYING.
But our world is not as kind or as generous as I would have it be, and humans are not, either.
And so we have to explicitly *tell* people that sexual assault of ANY kind is not okay, and we have to do what we can to tip the balance toward respect for the agency and physical integrity of every individual, no matter their gender, sexual orientation, identification, presentation, history or reputation.
No means no.
Gentlemen of my friends list, please consider participating in YesheRabbit's project. I thank you in advance.
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