Ladies, parents of girls, friends and lovers of women...

[labelleizzy]

How children are raised is how they behave when under stress.

For instance, attempted rape or sexual harassment.

Trigger warning, but I wanted to boost this signal because she hits the nail on the head about what happened for me with my own date rape in college.

Read the comment strand too.

a follow up which I found quite educational: Who FB friends your rapist? Assholes who aren't really friends to you.

Comments

[shipofools999.livejournal.com]

I read this post from a link in OKCupid. I was really lost because it is so familiar and why are you posting it again. Then I remembered it wasn't an LJ thing and the world made sense again. I like her stuff. It does point out some hidden thinking.

I am glad on giving up being considered polite already. I did it for my own reasons that have nothing to do with the rape culture, but I figure I am in a better place in regards to it. I can not conceive of agreeing to go out with a guy because he keeps asking and to be polite. I might consider it with the thought that I might be cutting my nose off to spite my face. But if he is one that doesn't take no for an answer, then there is nothing that would make me say yes. To me, that is plum silly. I am so grateful that we aren't living in our mothers' world.

T has a great story about being one of the nice guys who is aware of how women need to protect themselves. I tried finding it but I don't think it is his blog. I think it was a comment to someone else's post.