Polyamorous dating

[labelleizzy]

Had a first date tonight with B, K's husband. I like him and not just because he's cuddly and thinks I am too. He feels safe, and like it will be fun getting to know him...

Then because I felt safe with him, I was able to tell him that if sexy times was something that we wanted to move towards at some point, that I would need time and he remembered that I had said to him that I thought I was someone on the demisexual spectrum. He remembered. And he believed me. And I'm not sure why that was so shocking but it was.

I got cuddles and kisses! And this is maybe the best first date in a couple of years.

Maybe Jeff is right about dating our friends.

Comments

[kareina]

Oh! That sounds like a perfect first date. Cuddles and kisses, with no expectations for sex? How totally wonderful. I have always had a strong preference for dating people who were already friends, so Jeff sounds wise to me.

[labelleizzy]

You and I may, probably do, have similar preferences. And I'm coming off a very long dry spell so I don't wanna rush.

[kareina]

Yah, I have gotten the impression reading other posts that our preferences have a fair bit of overlap.

[hitchhiker]

aww, yay :) glad that went so well.

[labelleizzy]

😁😁😁😉😉😉

[noahgibbs]

Yay! I suspect I know the fellow in question from the desc, and yeah, that sounds safe and snuggly and wonderful :-)

[labelleizzy]

Safe snuggly and wonderful is all I want right now. I grinned all the way home.

[cinnamaldehyde]

That sounds like a wonderful first date, and person! :)

And really excited that he remembered, and respected your needs as valid. That's so great :)

*happy dance*

[tarasacon]

I've realized that I map somewhere towards demisexual. If I get back to dating I want to do my best to honor that.

This is a thing that sucks about Kentucky, where the social networks and language for discussion about dating are significantly behind what is available in the bay area. Maybe it is better if I stick to the queer community. Dunno. Not there yet.