Intimacy part 6: they asked how do you define "primary partner"

I love the term nesting partner, which I first heard from Jenn (hi Jenn!) And that's become the core of my definition. We nest together, we build a home, we care for that home and for each other. We open that home to friends in hospitality and love and sometimes a little lust.😎 In the same vein we open our arms to friends in hospitality and love 💙 and sometimes a little lust. Sometimes the hugs and kisses are warmer and last longer, even despite time and distance, and sometimes they cool off and fade. (Occasionally they explode messily. Ugh 💀)
At some point in the last fifteen years I RELAXED. And I trust that he has my back and I have his. (That was important because I didn't grow up in a trusty family and neither did he.) That trust is the big thing. we can do a lot of little adventures, and some bigger ones, with that trust.