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I don't feel like I've ever been good at "girly" things, and I sort of wished I wanted to be good at them? But didn't. Met some enby folks, reflected on my life, realized that I mostly only ever cared about my gender during sex... before I figured out I'm bisexual and biromantic... I mostly think genderfluid is one term for me, agender sometimes, but the term which made me feel real joy is genderpunk. 🤘I get to choose, in whatever chaotic combinations I feel like, how I feel, dress, present myself.
The short term I'm using lately is simply "queer". It's a great search term, for research etc.
(From a facebook comment in a nonbinary folks discussion group)
The short term I'm using lately is simply "queer". It's a great search term, for research etc.
(From a facebook comment in a nonbinary folks discussion group)
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I decided on genderqueer for myself, but am also fine with enby if someone were to use it. There isn't a significant difference from my understanding, but I always felt "queer" when it came to traditional gender roles so I chose the term that includes that.
A long ago romantic partner once said "There's male, there's female, and there's Tarasacon." It's still my favorite description about my gender. I'm not anything except me. :)
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That particular partner was deeply problematic, not sweet, which I thought about mentioning and decided made the comment unwieldy/ potentially triggering for others. But abusive sociopaths are successful in part because they are insightful, so I still value the concept even though he was a horrible person.
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Ah. Yes. Some of the best sex of my life happened with someone who was, in the end, one of the worst at poly, and was gaslighting both me and his other girlfriend at the same time. It's complicated. Nodding