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[labelleizzy]

Had a hugging dream this morning. At a gas station, I run over to Lefty (dream-you gives good hugs too) & then realized I had no mask, went yikes, and woke up.

The other mini dream I had was less fun
In the dream Donaldo trumpissimo wanted to have sex with me. And I was taking refuge in the extremely formal language that I use to keep distance from unwelcome people, and in the dream I looked around the oval office (in retrospect I'm surprised I wasn't feeling regret that This was how I got to see the oval office) and I remember feeling extremely cautious about how I might successfully exit the room unassaulted, fully expecting that secret service and other guards would be no help in getting me out of the situation.

After I woke up this second time, I lay there still feeling cautious and on guard, and I realized something about the "grab them by the pussy" remark which is incredibly obvious in retrospect.
Trump said "they just let you do it"
And I realized that was simply a "freeze" reaction, of the "fight, flight, fawn, freeze, fuck" series.

And most women I know got trained out of their bodily autonomy before they were out of grade school. Poisonous culture.

More to chew on here. No solutions, not yet.

Comments

[kareina]

Ewww, that second dream is horrid. I hadn't ever heard the part of the quote where "they just let you" before, but yup, if someone "just lets you" do something unwelcome, then it is because they were so upset about it they just froze. So glad that many people today are emphasising the part about getting consent first, perhaps, if we are lucky, that can lead to a solution?

[cjsmith]

Our culture is SO AWFUL. SO SO SO AWFUL. In this and many other ways.

What a horrible dream; I hope you can shake off any emotional fallout of it today.

[tshuma]

Icky dream. I'm glad you got out of the situation without further repercussions or emotional depth.