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Our families hurt us.
For some lucky bastards this isn't true... And this is an insomnia-post, where it's the middle of the night and I feel like I'm having some great insight...
One. Our families hurt us by actually lashing out, actually setting out to hurt us.
Two. Our families hurt us by not providing what we need to thrive, at a young enough age where we can't actually express what we need, or to ask for it.
Three. There's as many reasons why as there are suffering families.
Four. Whatever we don't find healing for, we continue to propagate outwards, in our sibling relationships, intimate and romantic relationships, work and friend relationships. In our political opinions.
Five. Once we start recognizing and healing that wound, we can recognize that wounding in others. Sometimes that means we can help someone else to start healing or continue healing. Sometimes...Not. Sometimes the best that knowledge can do for us is to help us avoid people who will make our original suffering worse.
Six. It's complicated. Smarter people than me have studied this EXTENSIVELY.
And it's stupid o'clock in the morning, and I'm going back to bed now.
For some lucky bastards this isn't true... And this is an insomnia-post, where it's the middle of the night and I feel like I'm having some great insight...
One. Our families hurt us by actually lashing out, actually setting out to hurt us.
Two. Our families hurt us by not providing what we need to thrive, at a young enough age where we can't actually express what we need, or to ask for it.
Three. There's as many reasons why as there are suffering families.
Four. Whatever we don't find healing for, we continue to propagate outwards, in our sibling relationships, intimate and romantic relationships, work and friend relationships. In our political opinions.
Five. Once we start recognizing and healing that wound, we can recognize that wounding in others. Sometimes that means we can help someone else to start healing or continue healing. Sometimes...Not. Sometimes the best that knowledge can do for us is to help us avoid people who will make our original suffering worse.
Six. It's complicated. Smarter people than me have studied this EXTENSIVELY.
And it's stupid o'clock in the morning, and I'm going back to bed now.