feelings

[labelleizzy]

it seems counterintuitive by how I grew up, and surprises me regularly, but if I feel feelings: hurt, angry, sad, scared, and ALLOW the feelings to happen? like, notice them, nod at them, don't judge myself for harboring them?

if I just feel them, instead of feeling ADDITIONAL feelings ABOUT feeling them?

they go away quicker.

like in the "fear is the mind-killer" monologue... eventually, only I remain .

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[eeyore-grrl.livejournal.com]

DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) covers this with the idea of Radical Acceptance. You may want to look into to see if it makes sense with you.

I took a DBT skills group in San Jose that I found very helpful.

[jadefalcon01.livejournal.com]

<insert sage Dune quote here>

[a-kosmos.livejournal.com]

Sounds like you grew up in an emotionally unsafe home, too. Yay, therapy!

[labelleizzy.livejournal.com]

Yay, therapy!

When I ditched out of the house with my expouse, the therapist told me, no, that was unacceptable behavior, yes your coping mechanisms are valid, yes you're a good human being. Bless him.

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

if I just feel them, instead of feeling ADDITIONAL feelings ABOUT feeling them?

they go away quicker.

Wait... but... what's the point of having a feeling go away before you UNDERSTAND the feeling? Feelings mean things!

[labelleizzy.livejournal.com]

Yeah. Today they mean I'm cranky and PMS y.
I finally don't have to analyze all of the awkward or painful ones... sometimes I just feel them ... catch, tag, release. :)

[fushia-darkness.livejournal.com]

This is good stuff, I think you’re onto something here. Something for me to mull over definitely.

And by the look of your replies, something most folk's already figured out. Hmm, why can I never get the hang of feelings?!?

[kosmicseer.livejournal.com]

Fear IS the MINDKILLER!!!