YES! This, exactly this. I trace it to grandparents on one side (a truly senseless tragedy there, creating a clammed up avoidant type full of self denial) and great grandparents on the other (another tragedy, this time very poorly handled, creating generations of bigotry, hatred, abuse, and resentment). The pain cascades forward through the years. My job is to stop as much of it as possible from rolling any farther.
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Wishing you strength and support.