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invidious [in-vid-eeuh-s]
adjective:
1 calculated to create ill will or resentment or give offense; hateful.
2 offensively or unfairly discriminating; injurious
3 causing or tending to cause animosity, resentment, or envy.
I am concerned today with Alfas and a section of the Ulama who engage in mercantilism and invidious rapprochement with occultic powers in order to be up ‘there’ in the world. (Afis A Oladosu, Of prosperity-preachers and materialism, Guardian Nigeria, September 2025)
The committee of the Bureau point out in their letter to the Government of India that in a matter of such importance to all the communities it is better to avoid any invidious distinction as was unfortunately made, and the committee hope that in connection with similar conferences in future Indian representatives will be invited. (Afis A Oladosu, Cotton and wheat conferences, Guardian Nigeria, September 2025)
He believes that awards are 'offensive', and describes them as 'invidious comparisons of works of art'. (Maya Binyam, Percival Everett Can't Say What His Novels Mean, Guardian Nigeria, March 2024)
This was the trouble with families. Like invidious doctors, they knew just where it hurt. (Arundhati Roy, The God of Small Things)
The tribes belonging on this economic level have carried the economic differentiation to the point at which a marked distinction is made between the occupations of men and women, and this distinction is of an invidious character. (Thorstein Veblen, The Theory of the Leisure Class)
Origin:
c1600, from Latin invidiosus 'full of envy, envious' (also 'exciting hatred, hateful'), from invidia 'envy, grudge, jealousy, ill will' (Online Etymology Dictionary)
Fittingly, invidious is a relative of 'envy.' Both are descendants of invidia, the Latin word for envy, which in turn comes from invidēre, meaning 'to look askance at' or 'to envy.' These days, however, invidious is rarely used as a synonym for 'envious.' The preferred uses are primarily pejorative, describing things that are unpleasant (such as 'invidious choices' and 'invidious tasks') or worthy of scorn ('invidious remarks' or 'invidious comparisons') (Merriam-Webster)
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post_secret_feed) wrote2025-09-28 12:03 amHi Frank,
In 2012 when I was 16 years old, I was date-raped by my then boyfriend at a party. A story not altogether dissimilar to the secret you posted this week from a person who was assaulted by a friend and was considering suicide. It took me 2 years to realize what had happened to me and what that meant, despite it being painful and causing bleeding for weeks. My brain had hidden the memory deep inside to protect me.
In my secret I wrote to you in 2015 I said that I was mad at myself for taking so long to figure it out and that I couldn’t forgive myself. I was considering suicide and felt too much shame to tell anyone about what had happened to me. I felt weak and that I had let myself down. But I was lucky enough to find a supportive community and was eventually able to talk to a therapist about my experience. It took time and a lot of work to overcome the crippling PTSD I didn’t realize I was struggling with. But I DID make it!
These days, I don’t think about it and if I do, it no longer has any power over me. I have forgiven myself and now I have a wonderful partner who respects me and never makes me feel unsafe. Moving on wasn’t easy but it is SO worth it. EMDR saved my life and allowed me to see that I was in fact strong and that life was worth living.
I guess I just wanted them to know that they are not alone. Unfortunately 1 in 5 women and 1 in 16 men in the US will experience sexual assault in their lifetimes. But, IT DOES GET BETTER! This is not your fault and that person was never really a friend at all. You deserve to be safe and loved. You are not tainted or ruined, you are so incredibly strong. I hope you are able to find the help you need and are able to give yourself grace. We are not victims, we are survivors.
Much love from one survivor to another,
J.
PS: If I submitted a secret today it would probably say something like, “I am not my past. I change everyday and I can’t wait to see who I become.”
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merriamwebster_feed) wrote2025-09-28 01:00 amMerriam-Webster's Word of the Day for September 28, 2025 is:
kerfuffle • \ker-FUFF-ul\ • noun
Kerfuffle is an informal word that refers to a disturbance or fuss typically caused by a dispute or conflict.
// The reclassification of Pluto from a planet to a dwarf planet caused quite a kerfuffle among astronomy lovers.
Examples:
“I find it fascinating that the media landscape and the world of storytelling has so many examples of Tony Sopranos and Walter Whites and Don Drapers, and I am hard pressed to think of as many characters who are women who are given the opportunity to be ... terrible people and to still get their story told. I think that because people are unaccustomed to that, it’s a little bit more shocking, and it’s clearly having an impact on the fandom. I’ve taken a step back from Reddit and social media, but enough of it gets through to me that I am at least aware that there is some kerfuffle happening on this front.” — Ashley Lyle, quoted in Teen Vogue, 11 Apr. 2025
Did you know?
Fuffle is an old Scottish verb that means “to muss” or “to throw into disarray”—in other words, to (literally) ruffle someone’s (figurative) feathers. The addition of car-, possibly from a Scottish Gaelic word meaning “wrong” or “awkward,” didn’t change its meaning much. In the 19th century carfuffle, with its variant curfuffle, became a noun, which in the 20th century was embraced by a broader population of English speakers and standardized to kerfuffle, referring to a more figurative feather-ruffling. There is some kerfuffle among language historians over how the altered spelling came to be favored. One theory holds that it might have been influenced by onomatopoeic words like kerplunk that imitate the sound of a falling object hitting a surface.
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